vncserver: Display check should confirm lock file is still valid

vncserver: Display check should confirm lock file is still valid

If the X server is not shut down cleanly, it may leave lock files
around that "vncserver" has previously mis-identified as evidence that
the display number is still in use.

Instead of checking for existence of /tmp/.X<n>-lock, the code will
now extract the PID from the lock file and confirm that a process
exists with the same PID. This will eliminate false positives in the
case that this file references a PID that no longer exists. The Xorg
server does not have a problem with fixing this file when it next
starts up. It is only important to avoid using the port if it is still
in use.