Support allowed hosts for webhook to work with proxy (#27655) (#27675)

Support allowed hosts for webhook to work with proxy (#27655) (#27675)

Backport #27655 by @wolfogre

When `webhook.PROXY_URL` has been set, the old code will check if the
proxy host is in `ALLOWED_HOST_LIST` or reject requests through the
proxy. It requires users to add the proxy host to `ALLOWED_HOST_LIST`.
However, it actually allows all requests to any port on the host, when
the proxy host is probably an internal address.

But things may be even worse. `ALLOWED_HOST_LIST` doesn't really work
when requests are sent to the allowed proxy, and the proxy could forward
them to any hosts.

This PR fixes it by:

- If the proxy has been set, always allow connectioins to the host and
port.
- Check `ALLOWED_HOST_LIST` before forwarding.

Co-authored-by: Jason Song <i@wolfogre.com>