PackWriter: Make want/have actual sets

PackWriter: Make want/have actual sets

During parsing these are used with contains(). If they are a List
type, the contains operation is not efficient. Some callers such
as UploadPack often pass a List here, so convert to Set when the
type isn't efficient for contains().

Change-Id: If948ae3bf1f46e756bd2d5db14795e12ba7a6207
Signed-off-by: Shawn O. Pearce <spearce@spearce.org>